HONOUR YOUR COMMITMENTS & DEFINING YOUR VALUES
My housemaster at boarding school often ended roll call with the adage ‘honour your commitments.’ This motto really inspired me. It cleverly described the kind of person I wanted to be in three words - a person of strong moral character, integrity and honour - I was immediately on board. However, fast forward a couple of years and it’s actually starting to stress me out.
My housemaster never told us what to do when we take on too much or when we emotionally or financially cannot face our commitments or how to deal with the disappointment of not being able to honour your commitments. Obviously, he was only giving us the basic tools of becoming a person of strong moral character. I also imagine his ‘honour your commitments’ adage assumes that you have determined the things you deem important and worth your time.
As I grow older, I’m learning that it is incredibly important to really define the things that you actually value. I think taking the time to carve out these values is the key to many things in life, including true happiness. Nobody wants to wake up in 30 years time wondering why they didn’t spend more time doing X instead of Y.
So today, I want you to think about what it is you value in your life. This isn’t the same as defining your goals, it’s looking at the overall spirit of your life - what will be your legacy. I guess it can be thought of as a long term or overarching goal. Do you want financial stability and a successful career? Do you want a banging social life? A wonderful family life? Think about which are the most important the non-negotiable ones. Once you’ve decided on those things it becomes so much easier to honour your commitments as you’ll know that commitments which line up with your overarching life goal or your true values are at the top of your list; the commitments themselves become non-negotiable and you’ll never feel like your disappointing yourself or anybody else whilst honouring them.
Let me know your conclusions and thoughts in the comments below!